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How To Not Catch Feelings For A One Night Stand

Sometimes the joys of casual sex can be outweighed by pesky “feelings.” Thankfully, a psychotherapist says these hookups can be easy ways to satisfy carnal desires with no strings attached. During sex, the body releases oxytocin, commonly called the “love hormone,” so it’s natural to feel a deep connection during and after the act, even if it only happens once, explained a Sydney-based psychotherapist.

She explained that when people catch serious feelings for a casual hookup, they may be ignoring the reality of the situation, perhaps to get more out of it: “It’s possible that that person is not responding to what’s available at this moment, and trying to fulfill deeper needs…” She added that people who find themselves with feelings for a one night stand should take time to gauge the gravity of those feelings, and reflect to see if the feelings align with what they really want. People who found themselves getting emotional would do well to acknowledge those feelings honestly, allow them to exist, then let them go: “We can catch feelings, but we don’t actually have to hold onto them. It’s possible to let them come, stay for a while, and pass.”

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Check out more about how not to catch feelings for a one night stand: https://www.vice.com/en/article/wxd835/how-to-sex-one-night-stand-hookup-emotions

Men Who Sport Luxury Logos Are More Likely To Cheat

Forget about looking through your partner’s phone to catch him two-timing—just look at his clothes. New research shows that men who wear extravagant fashions with large luxury logos embroidered on them are more likely to be untrustworthy, according to a University of Michigan study. Men who own tees with larger brand emblems were “rated higher on mating effort, lower on parental investment,” researchers said—meaning they have a higher interest in engaging in brief sexual affairs.

These men are also less interested in having long-term and committed romantic relationships, the study showed. Not only that, but they are less attracted to women who want these long-term relationships compared to men who own shirts with a smaller logo. “Rather than being a reliable and honest signal of future paternal investment, displays of luxury goods may sometimes represent investment in mate attraction, which is at the expense of future investment in offspring,” said the study’s lead author.

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Check out more about a study showing men who wear large luxury logos are more likely to cheat: https://nypost.com/2021/04/28/men-who-wear-this-are-more-likely-to-cheat-study-says/

Why You Sometimes Blurt Out ‘I Love You’ During Sex

It often seems “I love yous” tossed out during sex are as meaningless as the empty promise afterward to call the next day. So what is it about getting laid that brings on the seemingly compulsive urge to tell someone we love them just because we happen to be currently fucking them? Science and culture might have the answer.

As a society, we’re conditioned to believe you should only have sex with someone you love, so the pressure to feel an emotional bond with the person you’re fucking is definitely cultural. But it’s also chemical, taking place ten seconds after climax in the human brain. The elation you feel during fucking is the same as the euphoric effects of a drug—a supreme moment of bliss—and just like the high from a drug, you might feel things that aren’t real. Psychologists have also shown that sex is hotter when you say “I love you,” because it increases sexual desire on both sides. Oh, the sexy lies we tell when cresting on a splendid, orgasmic wave!

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Check out more about why you blurt out “I love you” while fucking: https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/why-you-sometimes-blurt-out-i-love-you-during-sex

Number Of Men Who Want To Be Cuckolded Has Doubled In a Decade

Cuckolding, a sexual fetish where men encourage their partner to have sex with others, is on the rise. Once a disparaging term to describe men who had been cheated on, cuckoldry is becoming a more popular and sought-out fetish. Research shows it has boomed over the past decade as people have come to embrace what was once considered taboo.

Since 2004, the number of people searching for the fetish online has almost doubled, according to Google Trends. Internet forums promoting the “cuckold lifestyle” and Reddit threads such as “Cuck wannabe who is curious” and “My girlfriend wants me to be a cuck,” are evidence that people are indulging their “forbidden fantasies” more and more. “It’s essential to grasp that what might be humiliating about imagining one’s wife having sex with another male is, in its idealized formulation, transformed into something not humiliating at all but engrossingly erotic,” said a psychologist in Psychology Today.

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Check out more about how cuckolding is on the rise: https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3966888/Research-shows-number-men-want-partner-sleep-people-cuckoldry-fetish-doubles-decade.html

People Who Believe in a Sexual ‘Soulmate’ Have Worse Sex, Study Finds

A recent study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that a person’s sexual satisfaction has a lot to do with their beliefs. The study’s researchers focused on two pervasive beliefs: that good sex comes from working at it with their partner (sexual growth) or that it’s the result of natural compatibility (sexual destiny). To figure out which perspective leads to better sex, the researchers first measured where participants fell on the spectrum of sexual beliefs, and then asked them questions like “Sexual relationships often fail because people do not try hard enough” and “If a relationship is meant to be, sex is easy and wonderful.”

Ultimately, researchers found that “individuals reported more positive sexual experiences and higher relationship quality when they more strongly endorsed the notion that sexual satisfaction requires work.” They also found that those who believed in a so-called “sexual soulmate,” or someone who can magically fulfill them sexually without any effort or work, had much more frustrating, disappointing sex. Interestingly, men tended to believe in sexual destiny much more than women—probably because women often have to work harder than men to achieve sexual satisfaction. The study shows that it’s important to put romantic myths aside and focus on what actually creates a long-term, sexually fulfilling sex life: effort and hard work!

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Check out more about the study that shows that those who believe in sexual soulmates have worse sex:https://broadly.vice.com/en_us/article/people-who-believe-in-a-sexual-soulmate-have-worse-sex-study-says

Sex Makes You Better At Your Job, Study Says

We all know sex is good for the mind, body, and soul, but new evidence suggests it can actually help you perform better at work, too. According to a psychology study at Oregon State University, fucking at home makes you do better at the office. Researchers surveyed 159 married couples, who largely reported a “morning positive effect” at work the next day after a night of good sex.

There was even a correlation between nightly banging and high job satisfaction, low stress levels, and marital satisfaction. While it’s unclear whether the people in the study were simply happier and therefore had more sex and more job satisfaction, or if having sex led them to do better at work, the study is further proof that there are undeniably positive benefits of getting laid. “This is a reminder that sex has social, emotional and physiological benefits, and it’s important to make it a priority,” the lead author of the study said. “Just make time for it.”

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Check out more about the study that shows sex can make you better at your job: https://gizmodo.com/sex-makes-life-better-study-says-1793017172

Does ‘Gaydar’ Exist? Science Has the Answer

GayDar copy Think you may have ‘gaydar’? Well, a new study claims it has the long-awaited answer to whether it exists. Researchers at University of Wisconsin-Madison’s Department of Psychology conducted a study to determine if some people really are able to ‘detect’ another’s sexuality—which they’re confident will finally debunk the myth once and for all.

Participants were instructed to look at the social media profiles of different men and then asked to determine whether they were gay or straight. The profiles either had stereotypically gay or stereotypically straight interests, and interestingly, the participants who were told gaydar is real stereotyped much more than those who were told that gaydar is just another term for stereotyping. According to the researchers, “These patterns provided strong support for the idea that belief in gaydar encourages stereotyping by simply disguising it under a different label.” The study’s takeaway is simple: “Encouraging stereotyping under the guise of gaydar contributes—directly or indirectly—to stereotyping’s downstream consequences.” In other words, gaydar only perpetuates prejudice.

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Check out more about the study that debunks gaydar here: https://www.thegailygrind.com/2017/03/20/gaydar-actually-exist-science-finally-long-awaited-answer/

Study Finds Most Straight Women are Turned on By Naked Men and Women

A new study is further evidence that sexual identifications like straight, gay, and bi are complex and muddy terms. The study found that most straight women are aroused by images of both naked men and women. “Eighty-two percent of the female participants—and 74 percent of the women who identify as straight—exhibited arousal to both sexes,” Slate reported. So is this proof that women cannot be straight?

Well, not exactly. In scientific terms, an attraction to both genders does technically mean that you’d be considered bi-sexual. But this definition only takes into account one’s sexual identification, not one’s romantic identification. In other words, bi-sexual people are not only attracted to both sexes, but they’d want to date both sexes. While straight women might become aroused by seeing naked images of both sexes (which is largely a physiological response because of the way women’s brains are wired), they don’t necessarily want to act on their feelings of sexual desire. Mainly, this study shows how slippery and confusing sexual orientation can be—and how sexually versatile women are!

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Couples Who Sext Are Having the Best Sex

Let’s face it, since sexting is basically only discussed in scandalous news stories, it’s gotten a bad rap. But what if we told you that sexting among consenting adults has many benefits? A new study presented at the American Psychological Association proves that the couples who sext together stay together—because they’re having the best sex!

In a survey that asked 870 participants aged 18 to 82 about their sexting habits, a staggering 82 percent of the people reported sexting within the last year. And the adults who engaged in consensual sexting were happier sexually and with their relationship in general. The psychologists who led the study think this is because sexting is a form of communication that benefits both men and women: men prefer visual stimuli while women respond to the positive reinforcement of knowing that they’re desired. The psychologists are hopeful that with more research into the benefits of sexting, it could eventually be used in couple’s therapy to promote more communication and intimacy between partners. As one researcher said, “sexting can be good.”

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Check out more about the benefits of sexting here: https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2015/08/08/430322824/could-sexting-help-your-relationship?

Sexual Fetish Research Shows the Endlessness of Erotic Desire

Researchers have come a long way since 2004 when they first attempted to catalogue human’s seemingly endless sexual fetishes. Back then, the most common fetishes involved body parts, namely feet and toes, followed by body fluids (blood, urine, etc.), then body types (tall, short, fat, to name a few). The research also documented objects that go on the body—stockings, shoes, skirts and, of course, the most popular, underwear. The most shocking fetishes recorded then probably had to do with catheters and pacemakers…we’ll let you use your imagination.

But now, psychiatrists have taken on the monumental task of attempting to record all of the sexual fetishes in the world in order to include them in the ever evolving Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM). In the latest DSM released in 2010, the focus turned to Paraphilia, or “the experience of intense sexual arousal to atypical objects, situations, or individuals.” Before doctors understood that paraphilia fetishes were just a kinky sexual preference, people called these fetishists “perverts” or “sexual deviants.” These days, researchers just want to understand fetishes like Dacryphilia (a BDSM variant whereby sexual enjoyment or arousal is gained from tears and crying) to record and try to make sense of all the endless ways people express erotic desire.

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Check out more about the history of sexual fetish research here.