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5 Rules For Mistresses

If you enter into a hot affair, it’s important to have some ground rules in place before deciding to become a mistress. And if you do decide to become “the other woman,” i.e., a sidepiece or mistress, it’s vital that you understand the terms of the deal. So here are the 5 rules you have to know before getting down to business as a mistress:
  1. If you’re the mistress, you may not be the only mistress
    Obviously, becoming the other woman doesn’t mean that you will be the only woman.
  2. Enjoy the stolen moments
    When engaging in a steamy affair as a mistress, it’s not necessary to focus on anything else other than having a sexy good time in the moment. Savor it, and don’t worry about what happens when you’re not together.
  3. Be comfortable with your role as the mistress—the main woman is not relevant
    There’s no reason to compare yourself to the wife or the main woman: if you’re the mistress, focus on enjoying yourself and having fun.
  4. Keep it positive
    When engaging in a “situationship,” keeping things positive, fun, and light is the only way to go. Remember that an affair is not a serious relationship—this is the joy of being the mistress, not the wife.
  5. Don’t get emotionally attached
    Being a mistress means being a sidepiece, and there’s no guarantee that will change. If you’re looking for something serious, steer clear of an affair.

NEWS: Amateur Dominatrix Takes a Class on Financial Domination

There’s a class in downtown Los Angeles that teaches dominatrixes how to financially dominate submissives (aka pay pigs, human ATM’s, or money slaves) who get off by getting financially taken advantage of by a powerful mistress, or a fin-domme. The financial domination class is held at the Den of Iniquity, which is a BDSM club that holds various fetish-based workshops such as “cock and ball torture” and “whipping.” An amateur dominatrix describes the class in Vice, and here are some of the things she learned about financial domination there: best_phone_sex_niteflirt_den_of_iniquity_los_angeles

  1. Financial Slaves are not sugar daddies
    A submissive who likes to be financially dominated is not a sugar daddy because there is no actual sex involved between a fin-domme and her slave. Financial domination is really about the humiliation of a sub giving all his money to his mistress, not sex.
  2. The humiliation is the high
    Money slaves enjoy being financially dominated because they are always constantly on the brink of total ruin and destruction. It’s thrilling for them to walk the fine line of losing everything they have, and to give up power, completely.
  3. Financial Domination ain’t easy

    With the contracts, black-mail requests, and having complete control over a slave’s finances, financial domination sure ain’t easy. At the end of the day, a fin-domme does it because she loves it, just as much as her slave.

Want us to take control of your finances? We don’t need a class to whip your wallet into shape!

 

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NEWS: Inside the Dungeon of a Legendary BDSM Chateau

La Domaine Esemar is the creation of Master R, owner of the only BDSM chateau left in the world, and practicer of a BDSM lifestyle since the 1960s. Patrons have come to La Domaine since 1993 for erotic, fetish-y, BDSM fun, such as dominant/submissive roleplaying and a variety of fetishism, as well as long-term, lifestyle BDSM education and practice. Upstairs, the chateau looks like any other, with vintage furniture and tea in the cupboards; but downstairs, in the dungeon, you’ll find a BDSM underworld of unimaginable proportions.best_phone_sex_niteflirt_bdsm_chateau

There’s about $25,000 worth of equipment in the dungeon, which covers the entire length of the basement and includes every BDSM toy and fetish device under the sun. To name a few of the BDSM devices: there’s a Dildo Wall of Fame, a dildo machine, dozens of feet of rope, a cross-dressing station, suspension table, chains hanging from the ceiling, and even “Vlad the Impaler,” the name for a chair with a motorized butt plug coming out of its seat! According to R, the ball-crushing device and surgical instruments aren’t even the cruelest BDSM instruments of pain: instead, a single feather is what really brings “your monsters to the surface.” In its 21 years of kinky, BDSM operation, it’s served 6,000 clients from over 25 countries and nearly 500 couples (R explains that the chateau is like a “kinky bed and breakfast” for couples seeking a BDSM weekend getaway).

In the mood to enter Niteflirt’s BDSM dungeon o’ fun (and pain)? We are always down for some BDSM fetish play!

 

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NEWS: Financial Domination: A Very Expensive Fetish

best_phone_sex_niteflirt_financial_domination“Pay pigs,” or BDSM submissives who get off to financial domination, i.e, paying a dominatrix to dominate them financially, are shelling out the big bucks to their mistress-doms. With this fetish, pay pigs might send their mistress a small amount of money each week, or they might let her take control over their finances completely, getting pleasure from her total financial domination over them. Some of these pay pigs deny themselves everything for their financial domination fetish, just allowing themselves food, water, shelter, and basic necessities to live and giving all the rest to their mistress.

So what’s the allure of financial domination? One reason is that submissives worship their mistress, and get off to giving her everything. One pay pig explains, “It was always meant to be – I was born to serve beautiful goddesses like my mistress.” Pay pigs, aka pets or slaves, get pleasure from financial domination because they either like the abuse—the humiliation and suffering of giving someone all of their money—or because they are successful business people who like being vulnerable and letting someone else take charge for a change. And the mistress is not a mistress in the traditional sense—she’s not having her pets pay her bills, for example, because that would take away her power; instead, she only spends the money on frivolous things simply for the sexual thrill of having control over another person.

Kinky! Want to indulge your fetish with us? Whether you’re into financial domination, BDSM, or something else entirely, we are always down for some naughty or nice play!

Check out an interview with a financial domination mistress on Vice.

 

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“Our Beds Are Crowded”

By Wicked Barbie

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As the noted psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud famously said, “Our beds are crowded,” and indeed they are. What Freud meant is that quite simply, our current sexual interactions are the sum total of past relationships, fantasies, and to some extent, current fetishes or sexual conflicts. I have never been more acutely aware of this than during my time as a Niteflirt Phone Sex Mistress. When a new submissive calls me, and a connection is made, that is I take him on as my submissive, and he chooses me as his dominatrix, I am not only dealing with the submissive and his or her fetishes; rather, I am dealing with the psychosexual layers of his past mistresses. It is akin to a sexual archeological dig, and one must be careful when dealing with cherished relics of the past.

It has been my experience that a past Mistress may have been a positive experience for the submissive who has now made his way to me, or perhaps she has left some emotional debris that must be dealt with in order to move on in the sub’s sexual odyssey. Whatever the case may be, regardless of her impact, she is to some extent a component of the relationship I am now establishing with the submissive, and when dealing with a submissive who has been engaged in a fetish lifestyle for a number of years, we are dealing with a bed that is overflowing with people!

It is interesting how we are in some sense all interconnected, though in actuality, our paths may never cross. As I am a fairly new dominatrix, I would submit that I not only learn about this lifestyle via the submissive callers I have had the pleasure of knowing, but also from what their Mistresses have taught them. I in turn, use what I have learned in conjunction with my own methodology, and the process of sharing information carries on in a continuum of sorts.

In any case, I would submit that Freud was correct; “Our beds are Crowded,” but do give me a call.  There’s always room for one more.

-Ze Wicked Barbie

PhoneSexLove: My Interview with “MJ”

I am Mistress June and this is an interview with the new marketing guy at NiteFlirt, MarketingJohn. Referred to sometimes as MJ but not to be confused with Michael Jackson. (I have a few connections, but not those kinds of connections.)

Question #1 – Who are you? You can be direct, you can muse metaphysically, you can share whatever you like. But please tell us who you are and be sure to include what you do for a living.

MJ: I am the new guy. The guy who has taken over Marketing at NiteFlirt. I come from a crazy background, with hands in all kinds of quirky businesses and ‘off the beaten path’ gigs and adventures. I bring a real strong creative sensibility to my world here at NiteFlirt and intend on pushing as many envelopes as I possibly can, although admittedly most of those envelopes may already be open in this little world that we all call home now. Ha.

I’ve already had about a thousand ideas for ways that we could grow business here at the ‘Flirt, but it’ll be a bit of a push for a little while to get things up and running. I think within a short amount of time we’ll all come up with a million new ideas that we can work into the company, and I can really piss off my immediate superiors with. That’s my cute way of mentioning that I LOVE input and creative ideas thrown my way, so don’t hesitate!

Question #2 – You mention testing your boss and getting creative. I relate to that rebel artist energy very much! But I am curious about the structure you will be rebelling against. What can you share with us about NiteFlirt to help us understand this phone sex industry platform that so many of us have come to depend on?

MJ:  I’m more referring to that rebel energy in terms of coming up with newer and more creative ways to market ourselves. It can always be a challenge within the adult industry so we need to spin a web that is inclusive of everyone without scaring anyone away. It can be tricky! It is such an interesting space because, let’s face it, almost everyone LOVES what we do, but a lot of those people prefer to keep that love somewhat hidden. It’s my job to find ways to draw those people out a little more and show them that it’s alright to let their kink flag fly with us!
At NiteFlirt we really consider ourselves and the site to be just one big wacky, kinky team. We value the Flirts so much, as well as our callers, and just want to continue to create a world where we can all keep playing and enjoying ourselves. A big part of that is my job since I’m figuring out how to bring that world to all of us. The truth is that we all really love our jobs and we have a really great time working together.

Okay, question #3 – My last question, have you ever tried phone sex?
He he… just kidding! Are you blushing? No, that is not my last question either.
Final question, what is one of your goals for the future of NiteFlirt? Tell us about something you are working on.

MJ:  Ha. I am a bit of a pussycat so I haven’t really delved into phone sex too much. I know that’s not your official question but just answering because i don’t mind. I definitely don’t have the “I want to be dominated and pushed around” side really. But I guess sometimes the boys don’t know they do, huh? Ha.
I honestly have so many goals at the ‘Flirt. Continue to grow and build on the social media footprints that we have already started on the last few months. Everything from continuing to grow our Tumblr blog to better communication on Twitter, and a deeper community feel on Facebook. Not to mention NiteFlirt’s own blog! We’re active on so many other sites, but that’s just to name a few where people can engage with me and NiteFlirt as a whole.

We are also working to come up with some new and innovative ways that callers can interact with the Flirts. It’s all a little overwhelming right now because we are just trying to get things really rolling while cooking up new concepts as well. The beginning of something is always the toughest and I’m definitely dealing with that right now. My specialty is ‘having fun’ though so really I just want to come up with new and exciting ways that we can satisfy all the communities at NiteFlirt; the callers, the Flirts, the company, and everyone in between.

Well, thank you for your time, MarketingJohn! I am excited about the future of NiteFlirt and eager to see your fun angle on how we can all better connect.
Folks should feel free to contact MJ through any of the NiteFlirt social media outlets or through comments here.

(This is the first installment of PhoneSexLove, a
new weekly column to be published here each Wednesday. Find out
more and listen to an accompanying podcast at PhoneSexLove.com.)

 

Intelligent Phone Sex Encounters

By Intoxicating Isabelle

The Intelligent Phone Sex Connection

I have conversed in the past about why intelligent men call phone sex, and of course there are a plethora of reasons.  There is something about the challenge of connecting with a powerful, confident and intelligent woman during  phone sex that is almost inexplicable.  This feeling is at the very core of the male ego, the need and desire to mate with a woman of equal or more intelligence than himself.  Of course anyone can screw the town whore or the bimbo college hottie.  It is a rare feat of courage to attempt to woo and capture the attention of a woman of great intelligence.

The battle of wits between two sexually charged people is but a fantasy for most men, but when they engage me as their intelligent Femdom Goddess they can finally release their feelings of desire with a woman of extensive verbiage.  You and I will seduce one another with our use of extensive vocabulary and descriptive verbiage to weave a detailed and erotic web of sexual lust and tension that has both of us breathlessly whispering.

Intellectual Stimulation With A Twist Of Erotic Mind Manipulation

As our heartbeats speed up, almost in sync, we will find ourselves in the midst of a sensual and sexual fantasy unlike anything we have experienced before.  Our words will guide us closer and closer toward the horizon of our sexual peaks. We will create the ultimate erotic fantasy using nothing more than our words, allowing us to venture to parts of our desires that we had not dared to explore before.

Intelligent phone sex is a rare experience that allows both partners to explore their fantasies in a new and exciting way. There is nothing quite like the connection that you will experience with your intelligent Femdom Goddess.  Are you ready to experience intellectual stimulation and erotic mind manipulation?

Until then,
Isabelle

Imaginary Teasing

By Seductress Suzie

Weaving The Fantasy
As a teasing Phone Sex Mistress, I am an expert at weaving a fantasy in your mind, aren’t I?  Just with my voice, I can make you believe I am right  there, alongside of you.  That isn’t your hand stroking your cock, teasing it, it’s mine.  That isn’t a Fleshlight, it’s my talented mouth, or my wet and warm pussy you’re sliding that cock into.  I know just how to get inside of your head and make you believe that I am right there with you.

Guiding Your Masturbation
You’ve got a lot to do with this though.  You let me take control of your cock. You let me guide your hand as it strokes your shaft, rubs over your pre-cum slick head and cups those swollen cum filled  balls.  It’s really not your hand though, is it?  It’s my soft hand, the one that knows exactly how to touch you, to bring you to the edge, and then back off, then take you to the edge again and again. I will keep you on the edge until you are begging for a release.

I Know How To Tease You
That amazes you, doesn’t it?  How I know how to let up or even stop without you saying a word.  And you do try to fool me, you naughty little slut.  You think if you don’t say anything, if you don’t actually say “Oh, Goddess, I’m so close”, that you might actually sneak in an “accidental” orgasm.  Silly little stroker, you don’t have to say anything!  I know by how you’re breathing, by the little moans and gasps that escape your lips…. just how close you are.  So I can stop…or  I can give you just that one last stroke and then stop……denying of that orgasm that you think you need.  Come and play with me little pets, and experience how much fun orgasm denial can be.

Ciao,
Suzie

Cock Control

By MissReaghan

If you’ve ever spoken with me before, I’m sure that you’re fully aware of who’s in control of your cock. But every now and then, I like to remind you, even if you haven’t actually forgotten. It’s fun for me, you know? I have so many different ways to choose from, after all.

How To Stroke Your Cock

Certainly you’ve been doing it yourself for a long time, haven’t you? You know just the right strokes that make you feel good and can probably pace yourself so that you know exactly how many minutes it takes for you to get off. You know your triggers and how long you can hold off before the inevitable “cumshot”. Certainly you’re comfortable in doing things your way … but maybe the time has come to try something new? But where do you go to find a new “trigger”? Who knows you better than you know yourself?

How to Control Your Cock

In the time I have been working as a phone sex Mistress, I have picked up different techniques and approaches to the same end goal: Controlling your cock. Whether it be through an extended guided masturbation session or something more drastic, such as chastity training and CBT … I always find just the right combination of stroking and teasing. But, yes, cock control is certainly an important act of submission. In fact, the very first thing I do when I allow a sub to serve me is to take control of his cock. Even if I haven’t agreed to own *him* yet, I will own his cock. It helps to establish control early, you understand. Leads to fewer problems down the road.

How I Control Your Cock

But, of course, the one thing all my cock control techniques have in common is that they all involve denial or, at the very least, delay. What’s the point of owning your cock if I can’t control when and how you orgasm? Or perhaps I should say “IF” you orgasm … and that’s a pretty big “if” most of the time.

Do you need to be reminded who holds the leash to your itty-bitty penis? Good. You know what to do, then, don’t you?

A quick final thought:

Femdom

By MissReaghan

You all know the saying, “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”, yes? Well, I can counter that with a phrase of my own that summarizes exactly the nature of our relationship and how you can best serve your Mistress.

What is a Femdom?

When you think of a Mistress, what is the first image that pops into your head? Is it the image of a woman, all decked out in black rubber and carrying a whip while she screams at you in German? An impossible-to-please woman who will crush your balls beneath her stiletto-ed heel and make you beg for the privilege of thanking her for her time? Do you picture a well-dressed, be-suited woman hovering over your every move and correcting even the smallest of mistakes with a disappointed look and a quiet “Hmm” under her breath?

Recently I had a survey on my phone sex blog, asking people that same question and the variety of answers it brought back were somewhat surprising to me. Even “non-kinky” people had an opinion about what it meant to them and, I was surprised to find that quite a few weren’t that far off the mark. They all seemed to radiate an answer that boiled down to power exchange and a woman that is sure of herself and absolutely in control.

Control me, Mistress!

How does that control manifest itself? Like the definition of “Femdom”, there are many definitions to what “control” is. Some would search through the pages of a phone sex site looking for just the right woman to expertly teach them cock control and orgasm training. Others want jerk-off instructions or just to listen as a woman guides their masturbation. Some require a strict Dominatrix with a “take no prisoners” approach to obedience while others would respond far better to a more sensual, teasing flirt. Still others like it somewhere in the middle … Sensually Strict, as it were.

Her level of control over you is entirely dictated by what you respond to. Just like in anything else in life … if YOU aren’t enjoying yourself, she’s going to know it and that will make for an unsatisfactory call for everyone.

So I leave you with the phrase I promised you at the beginning.

“The way to a femdom’s heart is through your mind.”

Know what you enjoy and the kind of phone sex domination that suits your personality best and then go find her!