Our survey saga continues and we find out today what a fresh, fierce 40-year-old woman has to say about sex and all that jazz. From what I gathered her answers were a bit more demure when compared to our 50-year-old siren’s answers, however the same self-confidence and grounded comments existed throughout both of their surveys.
I hope you enjoy, and perhaps relate. As a 30-year-old female I’m pretty stoked that women 10-20 years older than me are true pleasure seekers, and are so freely sensual about their wants and needs behind closed doors. Monday we’ll close this piece with the answers from our dirty-thirty chickadee, will she exude the same amount of confidence about intimacy and relationships?
Age:
41.
Current level of sexual libido: 1-5, 5 being you can’t live without sex:
5.
Astrological Sign:
Cancer.
Does astrology play any effect on who you date, or have sex with?
No, but I seem to be attracted to Aries man.
Have you ever been in love, if so how old were you when you were first in love?
30.
What was the astrological sign of the man you were in love with?
Aries.
What did/do love about sex with him?
It was fun and spontaneous and plentiful. He was naughty and cheeky, and loved random PDA’s, especially giving.
What characteristics of a man are you looking for, be detailed and be honest. Also, what characteristics are you looking for in the sheets, and how has that changed since your first sexual experiences if at all?
A man that pushes the boundaries, and takes risks. I like a man to be a man and take control. A little bit of arrogance is a big turn on. Respect and being a gentleman also works.
What is the biggest turn off in bed?
Socks.
Do you enjoy dirty talk, do you contribute to the dirty talk?
A bit of it is fun. I can give as good as I get.
Is there a position that you just dread? Is there a position that you love but are too bashful to ask for?
Not a fan of being on top because of my wobbly bits. No.
Would you change anything about yourself in the bedroom?
No.
Are you open to sex with no attachments, have you ever had that type of relationship and was it a harmonious? (Be honest ladies)
Yes and yes. The relationship served its purpose I got the intimacy I needed as well as some good friends without the strings!
Have you ever been cheated on, and if so, what can your next partner do to ease your fears about cheating?
No. Everyone is different; you cannot walk into a relationship with previous baggage.
Do you feel that men have changed when it comes to intimacy, loyalty, and relationships since your first sexual experiences/relationships? If so, why do you think this is the case?
Age and life makes it all different.
Do you feel that you’ve changed when it comes to intimacy, loyalty, and relationships since your first sexual experiences/relationships? If so, why do you think this is the case?
I have grown as a person, but I know what I want. Practice makes perfect.
When you’ve been in a relationship what have you done to revive the sex life when you’ve hit a rut?
Laugh and stir things up a bit, surprises!
Have you ever tried dating sites, if not are you open to it?
No, not for me.
In a perfect world what is your fairytale ending, marriage? Marriage with kids, unmarried with no kids, unmarried with kids, open relationships, a few more long-term relationships with different men with or without kids?
Marriage, no kids.
Do you ever laugh, sneeze, or cry after orgasm? If so, it turns out you may be experiencing a phenomenon called the peri-orgasm, or uncontrollable psychological or physical sensations after sex. While “losing control” during climax is definitely a pleasurable aspect of sex, with peri-orgasm, unpleasant flu-like symptoms can occur and last for days.