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How did you begin in the world of adult chat and phone sex?
I lost my job and the only one I could get at the time was as a Dominatrix at which I was actually very good. I am a personal submissive so I understand why submission is beneficial, and my personality is naturally dominant so it was a perfect fit! I then went on to become a Disciplinarian. I utilized that fetish to create incentive/disincentive programs to help people reach real life goals — such as weight loss, procrastination, even daily meditation habits! During the same time, I began to understand and apply the psychological components of the fetish world, and soon I created my own business, “Life Coaching With A Twist.” I am now a Fetish Educator and Mentor. Niteflirt is the perfect platform for my business! It has become apparent over time that helping people understand the underpinnings of their fetishes is definitely what I was born to do — it is actually my Divine Purpose!!!

What is your favorite part of being a Flirt on NiteFlirt?
I enjoy listening to people tell me their stories about how their fetish interests began, and many times, I am the first person they have told. I enjoy being the person who provides a “safe space” for them, listens in a non-judgmental way, and validates their authenticity. That is my favorite part of my occupation! I love it!

What do you do for fun when not taking phone calls on NiteFlirt?
Hiking, socializing, singing, and SEX!!!

Is there any kind of specific fetish that you yourself enjoy?
Yes. I am a natural born submissive and I enjoy breath play, biting, and, most of all, spanking.

What erotic fantasy would you like enacted on YOU?
Tie me up, interrogate me, and torture me with tease and denial! PLEASE!!!

NEWS: Inside the Dungeon of a Legendary BDSM Chateau

La Domaine Esemar is the creation of Master R, owner of the only BDSM chateau left in the world, and practicer of a BDSM lifestyle since the 1960s. Patrons have come to La Domaine since 1993 for erotic, fetish-y, BDSM fun, such as dominant/submissive roleplaying and a variety of fetishism, as well as long-term, lifestyle BDSM education and practice. Upstairs, the chateau looks like any other, with vintage furniture and tea in the cupboards; but downstairs, in the dungeon, you’ll find a BDSM underworld of unimaginable proportions.

There’s about $25,000 worth of equipment in the dungeon, which covers the entire length of the basement and includes every BDSM toy and fetish device under the sun. To name a few of the BDSM devices: there’s a Dildo Wall of Fame, a dildo machine, dozens of feet of rope, a cross-dressing station, suspension table, chains hanging from the ceiling, and even “Vlad the Impaler,” the name for a chair with a motorized butt plug coming out of its seat! According to R, the ball-crushing device and surgical instruments aren’t even the cruelest BDSM instruments of pain: instead, a single feather is what really brings “your monsters to the surface.” In its 21 years of kinky, BDSM operation, it’s served 6,000 clients from over 25 countries and nearly 500 couples (R explains that the chateau is like a “kinky bed and breakfast” for couples seeking a BDSM weekend getaway).

In the mood to enter Niteflirt’s BDSM dungeon o’ fun (and pain)? We are always down for some BDSM fetish play!

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NEWS: Does ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ give BDSM a Bad Rap?

There’s a lot of misconceptions about submissive women who enjoy BDSM: that they’re passive out of the bedroom, uphold traditional gender roles, or enjoy “abuse” outside of the context of being dominated during sex. But the truth is that just like any other sexual preference or fetish, submissive women find it hot to be dominated, humiliated, etc. during sex. It’s really just that simple. So many submissive women are put off by the negative stereotypes that Fifty Shades of Grey has perpetuated, namely the way “pain” and “abuse” was conflated and confused in the book and, consequently, to many women now experimenting with BDSM.

For submissive women to have fun during intense fucking sessions that involve pain, pleasure, or both, there needs to be a lot of communication between partners—extremely different than the fictional relationship between the main characters in Fifty Shades of Grey. In other words, the relationship in Fifty Shades, while consensual and erotic, is not what a submissive woman in a relationship would consider to be a safe, comfortable situation with a partner she can trust. Submissive women in real life who indulge in BDSM largely do not carry on the dominant/submissive role outside of sexual contexts—i.e, they can be in control of their lives in every other way; they just enjoy the exhilaration and excitement of giving up control during sex. In Fifty Shades, the submissive woman character wants to tame, change, and marry her rich, dominant boyfriend, and essentially puts up with his abuse (though she does seem to enjoy it sexually too) for this reason. But in real life, submissive women understand that emotional and physical abuse that one cannot control is different from giving up power willingly and getting off on that.

Want to have some hot, BDSM fun with us? We love giving over to pleasure (and pain)!

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