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The Best BDSM Movie in Theaters isn’t Fifty Shades of Grey

In the other BDSM film in theaters, The Duke Of Burgundy, you won’t find a kinky romance that blurs the line between BDSM and just a fucked up relationship. In fact, the movie has an all-female cast, where its characters live in a sort of utopia for women, studying butterflies by day and engaging in kinky BDSM role-play by night. The other striking difference between the two films: the BDSM in the movie really has nothing at all to do with relationships; it’s just about kinky sex.

And that’s what the movie gets right—BDSM actually has little to do with one’s relationship: a woman might like to be dominated, humiliated, etc. in bed, but still be very in control in her everyday life. Basically, the characters’ sexual and emotional needs are not conflated; the two are not the same thing, as many BDSM enthusiasts understand well. What the film also gets right is the sexy power play between the women, although if you’re looking for a racy, escapist romance like Fifty Shades, you’re not going to find it in this movie, which is being described as a “lesbian BDSM art film.”

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Welcome to March Badness 2015

March Madness, you say? Nah, we don’t care much about cutting down the nets in college basketball. We care about how naughty each of you are in the bedroom. At NiteFlirt, we’re all about March Badness!

NiteFlirt’s been in business for over twelve years so we know a thing or two about fetishes and BDSM, and we love them all. But which BDSM fetish is the best? We want to crown a winner for the sexiest and most deserving BDSM fetish of the year, and we need your votes to do so! 32 of our favorite fetishes will face off against each other until we have a clear winner — NiteFlirt’s 2015 March Badness Champion!

We’ve separated our fetishes into two divisions: Top and Bottom. Vote for your favorite in each match to see it continue on to the next round. The voting schedule is below. Each round of voting will last for only a few days, depending on the round, so make your votes count! You’re allowed to vote once per hour.

First Round: 3/11 – 3/15
Second Round (Scintillating Sixteen): 3/15 – 3/17
Third Round (Exotic Eight): 3/17 – 3/19
Frisky Four: 3/19 – 3/22
Championship: 3/22 – 3/24

The first round winners will be announced on March 15th!

Let’s kick things off with our Top Division:

TOP DIVISION

Spanking vs. Masturbation Instruction

On paper, this may seem like a mismatch. Spanking is a classic fetish — who doesn’t love a little smack on the backside every now and again? — so you might think is has a big advantage. But Masturbation Instruction has really been on the rise in recent years with many Dommes now offering this service, so don’t count it out quite yet!
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Spanking. Too much history to overcome.

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Verbal Humiliation vs. Home Wrecking

Another tried and true classic, Verbal Humiliation, is pitted against another upstart in this first round matchup. This time Homewrecking is attempting to unseat a favorite and make a deep run. Some have reservations about Homewrecking and just how “real world” it can get, so let’s see how this fetish fares with all of you!
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Verbal Humiliation. The real world can sometimes get a little too real.

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Physical Domination vs. Forced Bi

A little Physical Domination is up against Forced Bi in this matchup. In a sense, both of these fetishes can be pretty intimidating as they both involve the exertion of real force and domination. Many would argue that we all have a little Bi in us already, just waiting to come out! Which do you prefer?
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Forced Bi. We think we all do have a little in each of us!

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Strap-on vs. Ballbusting/CBT

Strap-on?! Ballbusting and CBT?! Which can you choose? Both are about power and taking control and both get us so hot! We think this is going to be one of the closest match ups of this first round. Just the thought of these amazing fetishes gets us worked up, and also sitting with our legs a little more closely crossed.
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Strap-On. The power. The ferocity. We love it.

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Orgasm Control/Ruination vs. Whips/Canes/Paddles

Hmmm, Orgasm Control. Another real power fetish. Of course, on the other hand, we’ve got another classic with Whips, etc. It may just come down to acquired taste as to which of these two fetishes gets you going. To each their own, we always say…
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Whips/Canes/Paddles. See our prediction above.

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Financial Domination vs. Face Sitting

Now we’re talking! A real, ahem, face-off we have here! Two true powerhouses going after each other. It’s really going to boil down to just how strong your wallet is or how developed your tongue is. May the best fetish win!
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Financial Domination. Quickly becoming a classic. Too much cash to not love!

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Tease & Denial vs. Brat/Princess Girls

We really wish that we could see the physical manifestation of all of these fetishes battling each other in real life. It goes without saying that we would pay a large amount to see a gang of Princess Girls hanging out on a stoop outside waiting for the lovers of Tease & Denial!
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Brat/Princess Girls. We want to see that gang!

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Cuckolding vs. Small Penis Humiliation

One of our personal favorites here at NiteFlirt, cuckolding, is going up against small penis humiliation and we think it’s going to be a seriously close fight. If you judge by the calls our girls take on the site, this could be one of the tightest votes in the Top Division!
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Cuckolding. We see a runaway here.

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That’s it for our Top Division! Now let’s get to the Bottom:

BOTTOM DIVISION

Bondage vs. Ponyplay

We absolutely love the creativity of Ponyplay, but we just can’t see this equine fetish overcoming the pure joy of Bondage. Bondage has practically been around since the beginning of time. It’s involvement in so many other fetishes makes Bondage seem it can’t lose. How can a fetish that often incorporates the fetish it’s facing off against win?!
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Bondage. Probably the biggest mismatch of the first round.

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Feminization/Sissy vs. Human Furniture

Feminization has really taken off as a popular fetish in recent years, and it’s one of the most popular on NiteFlirt as well. Deep down, many big, strong men are just longing for that pretty, pink dress. Not to say that Human Furniture isn’t gaining in popularity, but it still is a pretty niche fetish. With that said, we can think of a gorgeous individual or two that we’d like to turn into a human table or chair.
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Feminization/Sissy. We think more men want to be feminized than people want to be furniture.

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Goddess Worship vs. Electric Play

We just love these two fetishes! Goddess Worship speaks for itself and is incredibly popular. But we really get off on the high-tech nature of Electric Play here at NiteFlirt — an electrified wand being used on our naughty bits gets us all aflutter.
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Goddess Worship. It’s just not Electric Play’s year.

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Oral Servitude vs. Pumping/Suction

While these two fetishes sound like they are somewhat related, we’re looking at two very different concepts. Feed your oral obsession with Oral Servitude or enlarge and make more sensitive different parts of the body through Pumping/Suction? Both sound great to us! Cast your votes!
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Oral Servitude. Hard to say ‘no’ to a hot pair of lips and a strong tongue.

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Chastity vs. Feeding/Eating

The winner of this matchup may boil down to how submissive or dominant you are. Chastity is all about discipline and power. Feeding/Eating is all about messy fun in the bedroom.
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Feeding/Eating. We love to eat! Plus we feel that pure fun is going to win out over the more disciplined fetish here.

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Foot Jobs vs. Ass Worship

Do you love a sexy pair of feet or do you crave a perfect, round ass? It’s a question that every person must ask themselves at some point in their life. We know this is a tough one because we struggled with our pick as well.
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Ass Worship. We love a perfect, shapely, gorgeous, bouncy ass. We think most out there will agree.

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Hypnosis vs. Foot Worship

The feet are back for another battle! But this time, they’re taking a less active role by being worshipped. Hypnosis, on the other hand, is quite an active fetish with many nuances and variations. Perhaps we need to be hypnotized into worshipping some gorgeous feet? Things are starting to get complicated.
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Hypnosis. In a clean sweep, we don’t see either of our foot-related fetishes making it out of the first round.

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Spitting vs. Wax Play

Wax Play is so — ahem — hot! We love this messy fetish here at NiteFlirt so very much. Can we say it lights our fire? Ok, enough. The question really becomes how can it compete with a fetish so simple, so pure, as Spitting though? Can it? We’re rooting for it!
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Spitting. As much as our hearts say Wax Play, our minds say Spitting is the pick here.

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Which fetishes are your favorites? Get your votes in to get them counted! We’ll announce the first round winners on March 15th and then we’ll move on to the second round.

If getting through this first round got you all hot and bothered, come visit NiteFlirt and Speak to Your Desire™!

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NEWS: Amateur Dominatrix Takes a Class on Financial Domination

There’s a class in downtown Los Angeles that teaches dominatrixes how to financially dominate submissives (aka pay pigs, human ATM’s, or money slaves) who get off by getting financially taken advantage of by a powerful mistress, or a fin-domme. The financial domination class is held at the Den of Iniquity, which is a BDSM club that holds various fetish-based workshops such as “cock and ball torture” and “whipping.” An amateur dominatrix describes the class in Vice, and here are some of the things she learned about financial domination there:

Financial Slaves are not sugar daddies

A submissive who likes to be financially dominated is not a sugar daddy because there is no actual sex involved between a fin-domme and her slave. Financial domination is really about the humiliation of a sub giving all his money to his mistress, not sex.
The humiliation is the high

Money slaves enjoy being financially dominated because they are always constantly on the brink of total ruin and destruction. It’s thrilling for them to walk the fine line of losing everything they have, and to give up power, completely.
Financial Domination ain’t easy

With the contracts, black-mail requests, and having complete control over a slave’s finances, financial domination sure ain’t easy. At the end of the day, a fin-domme does it because she loves it, just as much as her slave.

Want us to take control of your finances? We don’t need a class to whip your wallet into shape!

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NEWS: Inside the Dungeon of a Legendary BDSM Chateau

La Domaine Esemar is the creation of Master R, owner of the only BDSM chateau left in the world, and practicer of a BDSM lifestyle since the 1960s. Patrons have come to La Domaine since 1993 for erotic, fetish-y, BDSM fun, such as dominant/submissive roleplaying and a variety of fetishism, as well as long-term, lifestyle BDSM education and practice. Upstairs, the chateau looks like any other, with vintage furniture and tea in the cupboards; but downstairs, in the dungeon, you’ll find a BDSM underworld of unimaginable proportions.

There’s about $25,000 worth of equipment in the dungeon, which covers the entire length of the basement and includes every BDSM toy and fetish device under the sun. To name a few of the BDSM devices: there’s a Dildo Wall of Fame, a dildo machine, dozens of feet of rope, a cross-dressing station, suspension table, chains hanging from the ceiling, and even “Vlad the Impaler,” the name for a chair with a motorized butt plug coming out of its seat! According to R, the ball-crushing device and surgical instruments aren’t even the cruelest BDSM instruments of pain: instead, a single feather is what really brings “your monsters to the surface.” In its 21 years of kinky, BDSM operation, it’s served 6,000 clients from over 25 countries and nearly 500 couples (R explains that the chateau is like a “kinky bed and breakfast” for couples seeking a BDSM weekend getaway).

In the mood to enter Niteflirt’s BDSM dungeon o’ fun (and pain)? We are always down for some BDSM fetish play!

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NEWS: Cuckold Sex: Fetish for Intellectuals

Cuckold fetish sex is the new BDSM for Ph.D’s, in which people with high IQ’s get off to the psychological anguish of watching their wives have hot, sweaty, mind-blowing sex with other men. Chaucer and Shakespeare wrote about cuckolding as the ultimate humiliation, so it’s no surprise that cuckolding has become such a popular fetish among intellectuals. It’s a psychological turn-on for cuckolds to watch as their wives get fucked by men who are larger, hotter, sexier than themselves—especially if the wife enjoys it more with the other man. “The high point of cuckolding is when your wife says she wants the other guy all the time and never wants you,” explains one guy who likes to watch his wife have hot fuck fests with other guys—and then serve them lunch before they go at it again!

This is because observing a wife’s infidelity, or cuckolding, without participating is a form of psychological sadomasochism. While some people get aroused by whips, chains, pain, etc., others get turned on by mental torture: humiliation, jealousy, misery, shame, sublimation. Watching and suffering helplessly as your wife has hot sex with another is its own form of torture; but what’s worse, according to cuckold forums, is when the wife forms an intellectual or intimate bond with the one she’s fucking, since it adds a new layer of psychological and emotional pain and humiliation.

Want to have some dangerous fun with us? You know what they say about playing with fire—you’ve got to love the burn!

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NEWS: Diary of a Submissive Man Who’s Not Allowed to Cum

In NY magazine’s diary entries of the sexually kinky, a submissive man describes being tied up, brought to his sexual limit, as his mistress (wife) denies him the big finish. On the first day, he (the submissive) wakes up at 6:30 am in bondage, as every morning, waiting for his mistress to un-lock his leather cuffs so he can finally move his restrained, “completely useless” fingers. He explains he hasn’t cum in 9 days, is completely hard, but will not be allowed to cum until his mistress believes he is ready—that is, until she sees “the need.” He watches BDSM porn, and waits for his mistress to put on his chastity belt.

Later, his mistress feels like fucking him—but instructs him not to cum as she rides him. His reply: “Yes, Ma’am.” Next morning, it’s more porn, masturbation, fucking—all pushing him right to the edge of cumming, but without actually finishing. At the end of day fourteen, still without cumming, he explains he’s masturbated 3 times, had his mistress masturbate him 5 times, masturbated his mistress once, fucked his mistress once, watched porn 7 times, read erotica 3 times, had 7 bondage sessions—all with no big O’s!

Want to have some kinky BDSM play with us? We’ll take you right to edge of your furthest limits!

Check out the submissive’s diary.

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NEWS: BDSM Expert Weighs In On Fifty Shades of Grey

There’s been a lot of buzz about the new Fifty Shades of Grey movie, especially from BDSM experts and enthusiasts. So one LA-based BDSM expert reviewed the movie to discuss how the sex scenes measured up against the real (kinky) thing. And that now infamous part when the male dom says that he doesn’t make love, he fucks?—yeah, that worked for her.

Overall, she thought the BDSM sex scenes were really hot—especially at the end when they got very hardcore. She especially loved the part when Christian Grey (dom) leads Anastasia (sub) into the Red Room of Pain: “I loved when he had her on her knees and he had her hold her hand out and he hit her hand. What a beautiful scene! He was taking her out of her head and into her body. That’s why BDSM is so awesome.” Ultimately, what she really wanted to see more of was BDSM “play,” like scenes where Anastasia gets tied up and flogged: “Let them see that it’s exciting and passionate…Show the clear link between the BDSM and the sexuality and how much it enriches your sex life.”

Want to come inside a REAL Red Room of Pain? Enter at your own risk…

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NEWS: BDSM Gets Accepted into Harvard

Like a proud parent first learning that their child got in to a good college, we have a tear in our eye for this recent Ivy League acceptance: BDSM. Munch, a Harvard BDSM student organized club can now hold their kinky meetings on campus for the first time ever. The prestigious university has given the club formal recognition, which means Munch can now discuss all their naughty BDSM fantasies at the famous university, and encourage recruitment through public announcements.

Munch has about 30 members who practice the BDSM lifestyle and who have been meeting in secret for over a year. They enjoy being able to discuss their BDSM preferences and fantasies with other like-minded kinksters who won’t judge them, and now they can bring the kink into the daylight. Munch founder, Michael, a dom who likes “punishing his partner,” explained why having a proper BDSM club at Harvard matters: “If you come to campus and you have the sexual interests we represent, you may not even suspect that such a group exists,” he said. “[Our recognition] shows we are being taken seriously.”

Want to celebrate BDSM’s special achievement with us? Three cheers to kink!

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NEWS: Domino’s Newest BDSM-Themed Pizza

When you see Domino’s pizza advertisements, you mostly see happy children stuffing their faces at birthday parties. So whoever came up with their newest, BDSM-themed ad has some serious explaining to do to all those pissed off soccer moms who don’t want kinky sex mixing with their family friendly pizza. Apparently, Domino’s is the latest franchise to jump on the BDSM/Fifty Shades of Grey bandwagon with its Sriracha pizza ad.

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It features a giant, leather-clad tongue that’s ball-gagged and tied up with chains and spiked handcuffs, ala BDSM! And it reads: “You’re going to suffer and enjoy every moment.” Kinky! According to Domino’s spokesperson, the BDSM ad is totally authentic, and was created for a Domino’s in Israel. Ironically, Domino’s founder is known for being bigoted and anti-gay. He left a few years ago, but we wonder what he’d think of his company’s BDSM-themed pizza?…Mouth-watering!

Want us to make you “suffer and enjoy every moment”? We have the real spice right here!

Also on the BDSM note, check out our Fifty Shades of NiteFlirt contest we have running through February and get involved!

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NEWS: A Dominatrix’s 3 Truths about Fetishes

A dominatrix and phone sex operator dishes on Cracked.com about the surprising things she’s learned about fetishes over the years. Even though many people believe that men are straight forward and uncomplicated when it comes to sex, this mistress-dominatrix/phone sex operator knows better: she’s encountered clients who are simply kinky, to others who have bizarre, even outlandish fetishes. Here are this dominatrix’s 3 truths about fetishes:

Fetishes are not about sex; they’re about sexual fantasies
As a dominatrix, she explains what many people get twisted about BDSM fetishes: there’s no actual sex involved. That would alter the power dynamic and put her, the dominatrix, in a vulnerable position—a turn off for both dom and sub. Instead, a dominatrix’s role is to act out the sub’s sexual fantasies and fetishes. Although many of the fantasies/fetishes involve sex (spanking, whipping, etc.), she does not fuck any of her “slaves.”
Fetishes have surprisingly little to do with sex
As a phone sex operator and dominatrix she understands that because of internet porn, very few customers want to hear her moaning and talking dirty while they get off—instead, they call to indulge their fetishes with a hot lady who will not judge their kinks and who is game to play whatever twisted, kinky game they like.
Certain fetishes are very very common
Even though she describes the clients she encounters as having “elaborate [kinky] fantasy worlds” that she helps “guide them through,” she explains that most of her clients have the same fetishes. In particular, there are a lot of guys who like to be feminized (i.e., forced to cross dress) and/or humiliated. She also says that about 75% of her clients have homosexual fantasies—and that most are freaked out by this, even though it’s completely normal to fantasize about a dick in your mouth (again, it can be a turn on because of power, dominance/submission) and, by her accounts, extremely common.

Want us to help guide you through your kinky fetishes? We love being part of your naughty sexual fantasy world!