What To Do When Your Partner Doesn’t Have an Orgasm

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best_phone_sex_niteflirt_maleorgasmHave you ever been with someone who you weren’t sure came or not? Since so much pressure is put on having an orgasm during sex, it can sometimes be awkward to ask if they did get off or to know what to do if they didn’t. Here are some tips to help you the next time this happens and to help your partner have an orgasm:

  1. Show that you care about your partner’s pleasure
    The sexiest thing you can do in bed is to show your partner that you genuinely care about them having a good time. Simple questions like “does that feel good?” and “what turns you on?” show that you care about their pleasure. This will help encourage them to relax and have a good time.
  2. Spend some time focusing on what turns them on
    Try taking some time to just pleasure your partner: give them head, kiss them all over, etc. While focusing on them, let them know that you enjoy what you’re doing by saying things like “you taste amazing” or “I could do this for hours.” This relaxes them and lets them know that there’s no rush.
  3. Communicate about how close you are to The Big O
    If you’re getting close to reaching orgasm but you don’t think your partner’s there yet, take a breather and switch it up for a while. This is a great opportunity to give them some more head and to focus on their pleasure while you cool down. And if you do cum before your partner, ask if they’d like to cum, too—sex isn’t the only way to get off!
  4. Take the focus off of cumming
    Cumming is not the end-all-be-all of sex. Make every moment count and don’t just focus on the end-goal. It’ll take pressure off of having an orgasm and it’ll make the experience that much more enjoyable.

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There are more helpful tips here: https://afterhours.lifehacker.com/orgasms-arent-everything-how-to-be-good-when-someone-d-1722292291

The First Ever Comic Written By and About a Stripper

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MelodyIn the 1980s, well before the days of autobiographical comics and everyday depictions of nude dancers, one woman decided to make a comic about her life as an exotic dancer. She worked in a club in downtown Montreal, and it didn’t occur to her that what she was depicting in her comic—basically sex-positive images of strippers—was novel for the time period. It was considered “pornographic” at the time, but this summer, it’s finally getting the attention it deserves.

Drawn & Quarterly published a 350-page collection of her comics, Melody: Story of a Nude Dancer. The stories, originally written in French with a bold black-and-white style, depicted the life of a nude dancer in a refreshingly realistic way. Melody and the other dancers in the comic love their bodies and get naked without shame or judgement. There’s also a lot of humor, showing how the life of a stripper is full of greedy bosses, needy customers and, at the end of the day, hustling to make a buck. Sex and nudity are not shown in a scandalous way: it’s all part of the job and of daily life.

Feel like having some natural, sexy experiences? Three cheers for sex positivity!

Read more about Melody: Story of a Nude Dancer here: https://bitchmagazine.org/post/long-lost-comics-about-working-as-a-nude-dancer-are-now-a-book

Introducing Teledildonics: Computer-Enhanced Dildos

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Andrew Quitmeyer is putting his PhD in digital media from Georgia Tech to good use—he’s designing the next big thing in dildos: teledildonics. Teledildonics is the latest in sex toys that use computers to open up a whole new world of possibilities. His newest invention, “the Mod,” is an “open source” sex toy that can be synced to any smartphone apps, remote controls, and even your own heart rate!

“You can program it to be anything,” Quitmeyer said of the Mod’s exciting operating system called the Dilduino. The Mod is currently being crowd funded on Indiegogo, and has raised $60,000 from eager would-be customers. The products have gotten a lot of attention for their bizarre, innovative, and some-what intimidating designs, but they also represent what many are calling the new wave in sex toys. The Mod is shaped like a big, smooth finger, is made from silicone, and comes complete with three vibrating motors and a completely rechargeable USB-battery. “Sex tech needs to be opened up,” Quitmeyer said. “People’s sexuality is super specific and weird. I don’t want people to have general sex. I want them to have the weird, specific, crazy, kinky dragon sex of their dreams.”

Feel like having the weird, kinky sex of your dreams? We are all about exciting new ways of getting off here!

Get the specs on Mod and teledildonics here: https://www.vice.com/read/a-patent-troll-is-trying-to-stop-dildo-innovations-803?utm_source=vicefbus

9 Exciting Places To Fuck Before You Die

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For all those adventurous types dying to visit exotic and remote places, we say: go forth and fuck there! Why not sexplore the world while there’s still time? Here are 9 of the most exciting places to have vacation sex (check out pictures of these amazing spots below):

Make those branches swing in a tree tent in Bavaria

  1. Get hot in a glass igloo in Finland
  2. Fuck under the ocean in an aquarium luxury suite in Dubai
  3. Unleash your inner exhibitionist in a tree house in Bangkok
  4. Have some dangerous fun on top of an active volcano at Mount Etna
  5. Have adventures in a fairytale tunnel of trees in Ukraine
  6. Feel alive in the ghost town of Bodie, California
  7. Get wild behind a breathtaking waterfall in Iceland
  8. Watch yourself get it on at the world’s largest natural mirror in Salar De Uyuni

Got some wanderlust yourself? Let’s get wild and adventurous!

Check out more majestic places where you should fuck before you die

John Oliver Schools the Nation in Sex Ed

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LetsTalkSexOn a recent episode of Last Week Tonight with John Oliver, the host dedicated the show to an important and often glossed over (or blatantly ignored) subject in school: sex education. With the massive problem of abstinence only education and educators’ choosing to shame and moralize to students instead of actually teaching them about sex, John Oliver decided to conduct his own sex ed crash course. And as you can imagine, it is not just any sex ed course, but the ultimate sex ed course complete with hilarious celebrity videos (check them out below).

John Oliver, in his characteristic way, pointed out that only 13 states require sex ed to be scientifically accurate in America. This means that states and individuals can decide how to teach the important lessons of sex ed to youth—which often results in teaching it in a way that condemns sex as an act that devalues those engaging in it, especially women. Enter: hilarious celebrities making a sex ed video. Their message is simple: it’s your choice, and people should respect it. Abstinence or not, be safe, use protection, know and respect what consent is, and be informed of medical facts. Now that’s good sex ed!

Feel like taking a sex ed crash course with us? We have the facts and the experience right here!

Check out more about John Oliver’s sex ed episode here: https://www.buzzfeed.com/juliapugachevsky/a-bunch-of-celebrities-made-a-sex-ed-video-and-you-need-to-s#.pf5Bg2lm1J

Porn Stars Give Women Advice on How to Give a Mind-blowing Blow Job

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Buzzfeed has a great video—instructional and sexy!—of porn stars giving women advice on how to give their man the ultimate pleasure. The porn stars use popsicles to recreate a mind-blowing beej for all those over-achiever ladies out there. Here are some highlights (check out the video below):

  1. Remember that one wants to be bored
    Keep it interesting, ladies! One porn star says, “You want to make love to the cock in your mouth. You don’t want to be like, ‘I’m bored.’”
  2. Open your mouth WIDE
    Dana DeArmond instructs the ladies to think of a clown at a carnival: “Make your mouth as big as possible.”
  3. Keep it naughty
    Skin diamond goes right for the family jewels: “Stick your tongue out and lick the balls.”
  4. Advice for men: eat your vegetables!
    One porn star advised a woman that if her man eats nothing but fast food, do not let him cum in her mouth!
  5. Just believe!
    “If you believe….you can destroy any dick you want.”

That was some great advice! Feel like having a mind-blowing experience yourself? We are very apt pupils here!

You can watch the video of porn stars giving blow job advice here: Porn Stars Give Girls Advice On How To Pleasure Their Man

Couples Who Sext Are Having the Best Sex

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SextingLet’s face it, since sexting is basically only discussed in scandalous news stories, it’s gotten a bad rap. But what if we told you that sexting among consenting adults has many benefits? A new study presented at the American Psychological Association proves that the couples who sext together stay together—because they’re having the best sex!

In a survey that asked 870 participants aged 18 to 82 about their sexting habits, a staggering 82 percent of the people reported sexting within the last year. And the adults who engaged in consensual sexting were happier sexually and with their relationship in general. The psychologists who led the study think this is because sexting is a form of communication that benefits both men and women: men prefer visual stimuli while women respond to the positive reinforcement of knowing that they’re desired. The psychologists are hopeful that with more research into the benefits of sexting, it could eventually be used in couple’s therapy to promote more communication and intimacy between partners. As one researcher said, “sexting can be good.”

Want to have some sexy, beneficial experiences yourself? We’ll show you ours if you show us yours!

Check out more about the benefits of sexting here: https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2015/08/08/430322824/could-sexting-help-your-relationship?

 

Kevin Bacon Calls For More Male Nudity With #FreeTheBacon

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Kevin Bacon recently made an important PSA with Mashable that calls attention to a very serious issue: where are all the hot, full-frontal dicks in Hollywood? Bacon’s solution is simple—#FreeTheBacon. What exactly does that mean? For starters, let’s get some more C&A (aka, cock and ass) in TV and movies!

Bacon explains, “There’s a big problem in Hollywood. We see gratuitous female nudity…and that’s not fair to actors because we want to be naked too. Gentlemen, it’s time to free the bacon.” Bacon calls attention to shows like Games of Thrones with lots of female nudity and urges them to consider showing “just one or two wieners every couple minutes.” Bacon reminds us that “this is an issue of gender equality,” like how there’s no male nudity in Fifty Shades of Grey: “Why not let Jamie Dornan take off his pants? Or better yet, let me play Christian Grey! We’ll do the whole movie in one long close-up of my penis.” Hollywood, take note—Free the Bacon!

Feel like Freeing The Bacon yourself? I think we can help you with that.

You can watch Kevin Bacon’s hilarious #FreeTheBacon PSA here. 

Important: Women Don’t Notice the Details of Your Dick

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best_phone_sex_niteflirt_eatingStudy after study has shown that men can seem self-conscious about how their dicks look to women. Is it too small, too thin, not shaped normally? Well, a new study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine proves that men can relax. As it turns out, women don’t really notice the details of your dick all that much. The study focused on men who had penile surgery due to a medical condition that misplaced their urethra on a different spot on the cock than the head. This small difference made many of these men feel embarrassed and unattractive.

But as the study showed, they didn’t need to worry. A group of heterosexual women were asked to rate a series of surgically repaired cocks as “normal or not normal.” They weren’t told that half the cocks were not surgically repaired cocks, but just regular, circumcised cocks. What the study found was that the women weren’t able to tell the difference between the surgically repaired dicks and the regular, circumcised dicks—both dicks looked normal to them. The main concern for the women was a neat looking cock, which thankfully the vast majority of men don’t need to worry about.

Feel like having some sexually validating experiences yourself? We love all shapes and sizes here!

You can learn more about the story from our friends at Gizmodo.

How Masturbation Can Help You Orgasm With a Partner

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best_phone_sex_niteflirt_orgasmfaceIt’s really quite simple: to have better orgasms with someone else, you should start by having them by yourself. That’s because figuring out your own self pleasure can help you instruct others how to get you off. Here’s how:

  1. Train your clit to be more responsive
    By masturbating, you’re actually “training” your clitoris to respond to different types of stimulation. The more practice you get exposing your clit to different sensations, the easier it will be to get off with your partner. When masturbating, try switching up the strokes, the amount of speed or pressure, different positions, and the number of fingers you use. Learning new ways to pleasure yourself is key to keeping it fresh and fun with a partner.
  2. Show your partner what you like
    Truly, the best way to get what you like from a partner is by showing them yourself. Try masturbating in front of them—it’ll be instructional and fun to watch! After going solo for a bit, have them put their hand over yours so they can see what you like. When they get a feel for what gets you hot, try tag-teaming your clit for a while, switching off hands every few minutes.
  3. During sex, give yourself a hand
    Ain’t nothing wrong with giving yourself what you like during sex. Often that involves stimulating your clit with your fingers or with a vibrator during the act. This is especially easy to do in certain positions, like doggy style or woman on top.

In the mood for some self pleasure yourself? We’re always here to lend a helping hand!

Check out more tips about how masturbating can help you orgasm with a partner here.