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BDSM Class at Community Center Shut Down

A BDSM class disguised as a “relationship support” meeting was gagged recently by community center officials when they found out about its kinky intentions. The class was being run by a group called the Cambridge Kink, who wanted to educate locals about the BDSM lifestyle. After several classes, which included such titillating topics as “violence/resistance play” and the “basics of erotic hypnosis,” community officials discovered the true nature of the naughty, BDSM classes, and banned the event for good. Boo!

For around $16, the Cambridge Kink offered BDSM courses in caning, dominance/submission, and general “kink on a budget”—not to mention tea and pastries! The community center, which usually hosts girl scout meetings and bingo, admitted that while BDSM is more socially accepted now than ever before (thanks in part to the wild success of Fifty Shades of Grey), it is still not enough for the center. We guess it’s back to the underground BDSM sex dungeons for these Cambridge Kinksters!

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The Best BDSM Movie in Theaters isn’t Fifty Shades of Grey

In the other BDSM film in theaters, The Duke Of Burgundy, you won’t find a kinky romance that blurs the line between BDSM and just a fucked up relationship. In fact, the movie has an all-female cast, where its characters live in a sort of utopia for women, studying butterflies by day and engaging in kinky BDSM role-play by night. The other striking difference between the two films: the BDSM in the movie really has nothing at all to do with relationships; it’s just about kinky sex.

And that’s what the movie gets right—BDSM actually has little to do with one’s relationship: a woman might like to be dominated, humiliated, etc. in bed, but still be very in control in her everyday life. Basically, the characters’ sexual and emotional needs are not conflated; the two are not the same thing, as many BDSM enthusiasts understand well. What the film also gets right is the sexy power play between the women, although if you’re looking for a racy, escapist romance like Fifty Shades, you’re not going to find it in this movie, which is being described as a “lesbian BDSM art film.”

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Welcome to March Badness 2015

March Madness, you say? Nah, we don’t care much about cutting down the nets in college basketball. We care about how naughty each of you are in the bedroom. At NiteFlirt, we’re all about March Badness!

NiteFlirt’s been in business for over twelve years so we know a thing or two about fetishes and BDSM, and we love them all. But which BDSM fetish is the best? We want to crown a winner for the sexiest and most deserving BDSM fetish of the year, and we need your votes to do so! 32 of our favorite fetishes will face off against each other until we have a clear winner — NiteFlirt’s 2015 March Badness Champion!

We’ve separated our fetishes into two divisions: Top and Bottom. Vote for your favorite in each match to see it continue on to the next round. The voting schedule is below. Each round of voting will last for only a few days, depending on the round, so make your votes count! You’re allowed to vote once per hour.

First Round: 3/11 – 3/15
Second Round (Scintillating Sixteen): 3/15 – 3/17
Third Round (Exotic Eight): 3/17 – 3/19
Frisky Four: 3/19 – 3/22
Championship: 3/22 – 3/24

The first round winners will be announced on March 15th!

Let’s kick things off with our Top Division:

TOP DIVISION

Spanking vs. Masturbation Instruction

On paper, this may seem like a mismatch. Spanking is a classic fetish — who doesn’t love a little smack on the backside every now and again? — so you might think is has a big advantage. But Masturbation Instruction has really been on the rise in recent years with many Dommes now offering this service, so don’t count it out quite yet!
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Spanking. Too much history to overcome.

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Verbal Humiliation vs. Home Wrecking

Another tried and true classic, Verbal Humiliation, is pitted against another upstart in this first round matchup. This time Homewrecking is attempting to unseat a favorite and make a deep run. Some have reservations about Homewrecking and just how “real world” it can get, so let’s see how this fetish fares with all of you!
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Verbal Humiliation. The real world can sometimes get a little too real.

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Physical Domination vs. Forced Bi

A little Physical Domination is up against Forced Bi in this matchup. In a sense, both of these fetishes can be pretty intimidating as they both involve the exertion of real force and domination. Many would argue that we all have a little Bi in us already, just waiting to come out! Which do you prefer?
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Forced Bi. We think we all do have a little in each of us!

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Strap-on vs. Ballbusting/CBT

Strap-on?! Ballbusting and CBT?! Which can you choose? Both are about power and taking control and both get us so hot! We think this is going to be one of the closest match ups of this first round. Just the thought of these amazing fetishes gets us worked up, and also sitting with our legs a little more closely crossed.
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Strap-On. The power. The ferocity. We love it.

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Orgasm Control/Ruination vs. Whips/Canes/Paddles

Hmmm, Orgasm Control. Another real power fetish. Of course, on the other hand, we’ve got another classic with Whips, etc. It may just come down to acquired taste as to which of these two fetishes gets you going. To each their own, we always say…
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Whips/Canes/Paddles. See our prediction above.

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Financial Domination vs. Face Sitting

Now we’re talking! A real, ahem, face-off we have here! Two true powerhouses going after each other. It’s really going to boil down to just how strong your wallet is or how developed your tongue is. May the best fetish win!
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Financial Domination. Quickly becoming a classic. Too much cash to not love!

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Tease & Denial vs. Brat/Princess Girls

We really wish that we could see the physical manifestation of all of these fetishes battling each other in real life. It goes without saying that we would pay a large amount to see a gang of Princess Girls hanging out on a stoop outside waiting for the lovers of Tease & Denial!
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Brat/Princess Girls. We want to see that gang!

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Cuckolding vs. Small Penis Humiliation

One of our personal favorites here at NiteFlirt, cuckolding, is going up against small penis humiliation and we think it’s going to be a seriously close fight. If you judge by the calls our girls take on the site, this could be one of the tightest votes in the Top Division!
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Cuckolding. We see a runaway here.

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That’s it for our Top Division! Now let’s get to the Bottom:

BOTTOM DIVISION

Bondage vs. Ponyplay

We absolutely love the creativity of Ponyplay, but we just can’t see this equine fetish overcoming the pure joy of Bondage. Bondage has practically been around since the beginning of time. It’s involvement in so many other fetishes makes Bondage seem it can’t lose. How can a fetish that often incorporates the fetish it’s facing off against win?!
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Bondage. Probably the biggest mismatch of the first round.

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Feminization/Sissy vs. Human Furniture

Feminization has really taken off as a popular fetish in recent years, and it’s one of the most popular on NiteFlirt as well. Deep down, many big, strong men are just longing for that pretty, pink dress. Not to say that Human Furniture isn’t gaining in popularity, but it still is a pretty niche fetish. With that said, we can think of a gorgeous individual or two that we’d like to turn into a human table or chair.
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Feminization/Sissy. We think more men want to be feminized than people want to be furniture.

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Goddess Worship vs. Electric Play

We just love these two fetishes! Goddess Worship speaks for itself and is incredibly popular. But we really get off on the high-tech nature of Electric Play here at NiteFlirt — an electrified wand being used on our naughty bits gets us all aflutter.
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Goddess Worship. It’s just not Electric Play’s year.

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Oral Servitude vs. Pumping/Suction

While these two fetishes sound like they are somewhat related, we’re looking at two very different concepts. Feed your oral obsession with Oral Servitude or enlarge and make more sensitive different parts of the body through Pumping/Suction? Both sound great to us! Cast your votes!
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Oral Servitude. Hard to say ‘no’ to a hot pair of lips and a strong tongue.

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Chastity vs. Feeding/Eating

The winner of this matchup may boil down to how submissive or dominant you are. Chastity is all about discipline and power. Feeding/Eating is all about messy fun in the bedroom.
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Feeding/Eating. We love to eat! Plus we feel that pure fun is going to win out over the more disciplined fetish here.

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Foot Jobs vs. Ass Worship

Do you love a sexy pair of feet or do you crave a perfect, round ass? It’s a question that every person must ask themselves at some point in their life. We know this is a tough one because we struggled with our pick as well.
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Ass Worship. We love a perfect, shapely, gorgeous, bouncy ass. We think most out there will agree.

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Hypnosis vs. Foot Worship

The feet are back for another battle! But this time, they’re taking a less active role by being worshipped. Hypnosis, on the other hand, is quite an active fetish with many nuances and variations. Perhaps we need to be hypnotized into worshipping some gorgeous feet? Things are starting to get complicated.
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Hypnosis. In a clean sweep, we don’t see either of our foot-related fetishes making it out of the first round.

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Spitting vs. Wax Play

Wax Play is so — ahem — hot! We love this messy fetish here at NiteFlirt so very much. Can we say it lights our fire? Ok, enough. The question really becomes how can it compete with a fetish so simple, so pure, as Spitting though? Can it? We’re rooting for it!
NiteFlirt’s Prediction: Spitting. As much as our hearts say Wax Play, our minds say Spitting is the pick here.

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Which fetishes are your favorites? Get your votes in to get them counted! We’ll announce the first round winners on March 15th and then we’ll move on to the second round.

If getting through this first round got you all hot and bothered, come visit NiteFlirt and Speak to Your Desire™!

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NEWS: Fetishist Explains Pregnancy Fetish

What is it about pregnant women that is so damn sexy? Is it the glow, the confidence, the fact that they are a walking emblem of fertility? Whatever it is, pregnant women are hot, which is why a pregnancy fetish is actually pretty common. And one self-proclaimed pregnancy fetishist took the time to explain his kinky fetish to Jezebel. Here’s what he said:

Pregnant women are meant to be “chaste,” a common stereotype about mothers. So a pregnancy fetish turns that idea on its head by sexualizing pregnant women as naughty objects of desire. So dirty!
It is common knowledge that pregnant ladies are much hornier, and kinky fetishists love sexy women who have an insatiable need to fuck (and eat a box of donuts—maybe at the same time!).
There’s a cuckold aspect, where pregnant women are having someone else’s baby, therefore making her even more desirable. The fetishist says he doesn’t like cheating, “But I love people who are desirable to many people. This is something a lot of fetishists play with.”
Fetishists get off to the wild, hot changes a woman’s body goes through during pregnancy. Kinky!

Some men just love them a powerful pregnant lady! Got a fetish itch of your own you’d to scratch? We love being part of your desires!

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NEWS: Amateur Dominatrix Takes a Class on Financial Domination

There’s a class in downtown Los Angeles that teaches dominatrixes how to financially dominate submissives (aka pay pigs, human ATM’s, or money slaves) who get off by getting financially taken advantage of by a powerful mistress, or a fin-domme. The financial domination class is held at the Den of Iniquity, which is a BDSM club that holds various fetish-based workshops such as “cock and ball torture” and “whipping.” An amateur dominatrix describes the class in Vice, and here are some of the things she learned about financial domination there:

Financial Slaves are not sugar daddies

A submissive who likes to be financially dominated is not a sugar daddy because there is no actual sex involved between a fin-domme and her slave. Financial domination is really about the humiliation of a sub giving all his money to his mistress, not sex.
The humiliation is the high

Money slaves enjoy being financially dominated because they are always constantly on the brink of total ruin and destruction. It’s thrilling for them to walk the fine line of losing everything they have, and to give up power, completely.
Financial Domination ain’t easy

With the contracts, black-mail requests, and having complete control over a slave’s finances, financial domination sure ain’t easy. At the end of the day, a fin-domme does it because she loves it, just as much as her slave.

Want us to take control of your finances? We don’t need a class to whip your wallet into shape!

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NEWS: Wii Controller Made for the Pussy

A new Wii controller is going to make doing Kegel exercises (i.e. pelvic floor exercises meant to keep the pussy fit and tight) a lot more desirable. SKEA (Smart Kegel Exercise Aid) is a hands-free, vibrating sex toy that a lady inserts into her pussy, allowing her to control video games using only her pelvic muscles. Its c-shape resembles the popular couples sex toy WeVibe, and like a compact vibrator, can fit directly into a lady’s purse.

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The controller was created along with a Kegel fitness app that requires women to squeeze their pussy muscles to get their character to leap over obstacles. “Imagine playing Temple Run with Fitbit. Not with fingers, but with pelvic floor muscles!” the site states. Part sex toy, part gamer/fitness device, the controller vibrates inside the woman’s pussy, giving her the hot benefit of getting off while exercising her most important muscle. Innovative!

Want to get an intense work-out in with us? We’ll work you deep and hard!

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NEWS: Inside the Dungeon of a Legendary BDSM Chateau

La Domaine Esemar is the creation of Master R, owner of the only BDSM chateau left in the world, and practicer of a BDSM lifestyle since the 1960s. Patrons have come to La Domaine since 1993 for erotic, fetish-y, BDSM fun, such as dominant/submissive roleplaying and a variety of fetishism, as well as long-term, lifestyle BDSM education and practice. Upstairs, the chateau looks like any other, with vintage furniture and tea in the cupboards; but downstairs, in the dungeon, you’ll find a BDSM underworld of unimaginable proportions.

There’s about $25,000 worth of equipment in the dungeon, which covers the entire length of the basement and includes every BDSM toy and fetish device under the sun. To name a few of the BDSM devices: there’s a Dildo Wall of Fame, a dildo machine, dozens of feet of rope, a cross-dressing station, suspension table, chains hanging from the ceiling, and even “Vlad the Impaler,” the name for a chair with a motorized butt plug coming out of its seat! According to R, the ball-crushing device and surgical instruments aren’t even the cruelest BDSM instruments of pain: instead, a single feather is what really brings “your monsters to the surface.” In its 21 years of kinky, BDSM operation, it’s served 6,000 clients from over 25 countries and nearly 500 couples (R explains that the chateau is like a “kinky bed and breakfast” for couples seeking a BDSM weekend getaway).

In the mood to enter Niteflirt’s BDSM dungeon o’ fun (and pain)? We are always down for some BDSM fetish play!

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NEWS: Cuckold Sex: Fetish for Intellectuals

Cuckold fetish sex is the new BDSM for Ph.D’s, in which people with high IQ’s get off to the psychological anguish of watching their wives have hot, sweaty, mind-blowing sex with other men. Chaucer and Shakespeare wrote about cuckolding as the ultimate humiliation, so it’s no surprise that cuckolding has become such a popular fetish among intellectuals. It’s a psychological turn-on for cuckolds to watch as their wives get fucked by men who are larger, hotter, sexier than themselves—especially if the wife enjoys it more with the other man. “The high point of cuckolding is when your wife says she wants the other guy all the time and never wants you,” explains one guy who likes to watch his wife have hot fuck fests with other guys—and then serve them lunch before they go at it again!

This is because observing a wife’s infidelity, or cuckolding, without participating is a form of psychological sadomasochism. While some people get aroused by whips, chains, pain, etc., others get turned on by mental torture: humiliation, jealousy, misery, shame, sublimation. Watching and suffering helplessly as your wife has hot sex with another is its own form of torture; but what’s worse, according to cuckold forums, is when the wife forms an intellectual or intimate bond with the one she’s fucking, since it adds a new layer of psychological and emotional pain and humiliation.

Want to have some dangerous fun with us? You know what they say about playing with fire—you’ve got to love the burn!

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NEWS: Diary of a Submissive Man Who’s Not Allowed to Cum

In NY magazine’s diary entries of the sexually kinky, a submissive man describes being tied up, brought to his sexual limit, as his mistress (wife) denies him the big finish. On the first day, he (the submissive) wakes up at 6:30 am in bondage, as every morning, waiting for his mistress to un-lock his leather cuffs so he can finally move his restrained, “completely useless” fingers. He explains he hasn’t cum in 9 days, is completely hard, but will not be allowed to cum until his mistress believes he is ready—that is, until she sees “the need.” He watches BDSM porn, and waits for his mistress to put on his chastity belt.

Later, his mistress feels like fucking him—but instructs him not to cum as she rides him. His reply: “Yes, Ma’am.” Next morning, it’s more porn, masturbation, fucking—all pushing him right to the edge of cumming, but without actually finishing. At the end of day fourteen, still without cumming, he explains he’s masturbated 3 times, had his mistress masturbate him 5 times, masturbated his mistress once, fucked his mistress once, watched porn 7 times, read erotica 3 times, had 7 bondage sessions—all with no big O’s!

Want to have some kinky BDSM play with us? We’ll take you right to edge of your furthest limits!

Check out the submissive’s diary.

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NEWS: More Male Friends = More Sex

A new study published in the Journal of Comparative Psychology found that the more cock a woman surrounds herself with, the more cock she will have…in her pussy. It’s true: the more male friends a lady has, the more sex she will be having with her male partner. The study found that because of “evolutionary reasons,” namely “sperm competition” or a dude’s fear that his lady will get inseminated with another dude’s cum, a man will want to fuck his lady more often if she has more male friends. Time to head to your local frat house, ladies!

In the study, the researchers looked at the sex habits of 393 men in monogamous, secure, hetero relationships to see if homo sapiens are similar to other primates who screw more because of “sperm competition” among their fellow sexual male competitors. The results show that women with more male coworkers and friends (i.e. potential sexual rivals) got laid more by their partners, especially if the woman was perceived to be physically attractive by other men. Basically, if a woman has more men around her, her partner could get romantically jealous and want, perhaps subconsciously, to put his sperm inside her, as much as possible.

We like this study: we’re gonna start traveling with an entourage of dudes at all times. Bring your romantic jealously our way—we love a little healthy sex competition!